Well-being | 15.9.2025
Mental load: symptoms and consequences of the invisible burden
Mental load is an invisible but very real psychological burden: the constant responsibility for all aspects of family life can lead to stress, exhaustion and even burnout. Psychotherapist Chow Ling Prager explains why mothers are particularly affected – and gives tips on how to practise more self-care.
What does mental load mean?
It refers to the mental burden that comes with organising and managing everyday life – usually involving family life. For example, when a mother keeps a mental diary of all upcoming commitments – the daughter’s piano lesson, the son’s follow-up dentist appointment and the shopping for dinner. When she is the first point of contact for grandparents (child’s birthday!), neighbours (laundry schedule!) and the parents of friends. She feels responsible for searching for a holiday rental and spends time thinking of everything that still needs doing before departure. She provides emotional support, offers encouragement and takes criticism on the chin.
The mental load stems directly from the burden of responsibility and is further reinforced if the same person is also carrying out these largely invisible tasks.
